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Author: Charmaine

8 weeks old – Joy

Dear Joy, The past two months have gone by in a flash. Mama was re-reading her older Facebook notes from when your Korkor was six weeks old, and how different the tone of them are! Due to the intensity of your cries and the speed at which you demand your needs to be met, I have often been heard saying that if you’d been my first baby, I’d have been ‘scared off’ having another child in the near future. But having taken a walk down memory lane and smashed those rose-tinted or perhaps memory-fogged glasses, I now realize you...

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little big brother

It’s been a week since the confinement nanny left. Crazy days since then but just wanted to put this down for the record: Dear Noah, This week, you realised what it means to be a korkor. You learnt what it feels like not to have mama available for you when you need her, and it hurts especially because when she says no to your requests to play and to be held, and to lay down together to sleep, she is holding somebody else. But this also marks the week you did these two things of your own accord: One...

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gentle parenting – the newborn edition

Actually, this post is about a major issue for most new mums: breastfeeding! Even though some people eventually choose not to breastfeed, the current trend is for most hospitals and doctors to encourage breastfeeding, at least in the early days after birth. With Noah, I was blessed to have a baby who knew how to latch on pretty well and was rather hardworking. Once he found a comfortable latch, he would nurse contentedly for the whole duration of the feed before latching off in a milk-induced coma. I also had a confinement nanny who was knowledgeable about breastfeeding and...

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and then there were two

I thought my heart was full with just one little one, and then the next came along. It’s an oft heard cliche that your heart just expand with love for the second and subsequent children; that love doesn’t diminish when shared but is multiplied. It’s true. Suddenly I have two on my mom-radar! My subconscious is alert and sensitive to their needs all the time, even in sleep. Hopefully this doesn’t mean poor Galvs is pushed further down the list in terms of priorities, but it definitely means we need to be even more intentional about spending time alone...

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Pregnancy week 38. Feeling incredibly impatient for baby Joy to arrive, yet strangely lost and in limbo as well. Lately I remarked to Galvin that life with Noah (and our helper haha) seems so ‘senang’ or ‘free’ lately … Our regular routine goes humming along with plenty of time for rest, reflection, reading, or whatever else we want to do. This is probably a first since having a kid. So. It really takes around 2.5 years before life regains some normalcy after having a baby (re: more or less uninterrupted sleep, being able to go out, have personal time...

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